Pathetic

All of us have to deal with ups and downs in relationships. Be it boyfriends, girlfriend’s husbands and wives. Sometimes we get to spot where we really have to look long and hard at what we are doing to ourselves and each other.

With my family, my mother and sister I got to a point where I could no longer around them since it was such a toxic relationship. After all the years of them being mean to me it was not going to get any better, so for my personal growth I had to get away from them. Some still stay around toxic parents claiming it’s to honor the family bond, but if they are horrid to you, aren’t you just being pathetic and letting yourself get hurt over and over?

The good thing about boyfriends and girlfriends, they can break up and go their separate ways and not waste time hurting each other over again. I just had a friend leave his girlfriend that was horrid to him. She was a psycho woman that broke up with him every month. Another in a long line of psycho girls, he has only ever dated one woman, his mother. Also a psycho and it always ends badly just like with her. In a way it’s what he wants since he doesn’t want to get married or have children. Will the next girl be different? Doubtful, it does make getting back together with the last one pathetic.

In a marriage you have made a vow to be together for better or for worse. With that kind of commitment, when does bad behavior and tolerating it become pathetic? People try to work it out and that is to be admired since they did take that vow. We all have to come to our own conclusion. Is it just working things out, is it being supportive or is it just getting hurt all over again? We all have to come to a point where we pull up our heads and decide not to be a victim. No one can tell us when we need to do that. It is easy to see others bad patterns and not our own.

We see our friends suffer and the only thing we can do is be supportive. We may know exactly what is going to happen next. We want to grab them before the walk off the bridge and hold their arm; only we have to let them see it themselves. It’s so hard to be there for them when we see them go head long into certain doom. All we can do is to be there for them later, when they need us.

Each one of us has to look at our lives for ourselves. As much as we want to tell our friends not to be with this or that person, we can’t tell them what to do. It is never received well if we just tell them. At least when it’s all over with we can have a good laugh at ourselves. What was that anyway? I don’t know that was all you! We are all looking for someone to care for us and that is not pathetic, it’s just the truth.