Men

For some reason in my life I have mainly had more men friends than women. During other times in my life I had more women friends and while they were so sympathetic to me and understood me so well. They could be hard to get along with and touchy and they didn’t help me grow. They helped me complain endlessly and they helped me whine and when I did grow, I ended up out growing them.

I do feel we need friend of both sexes to keep us balanced. The guy friends I have, if they are left alone will think all sort of dumb things about women. Like that women only want men with money or that all women are psychotic and crazy. Sure some are, I have seen them too, but if a man is saying all his ex-girlfriends are like that. Well that has to do with the type of woman he keeps dating. The ‘together, rational’ women aren’t hanging out at dive bars and hooking up with men at the end of the night, by the way. The 'together ones' are working hard and going to business mixers or organizing events.

The things I have learned from men, is to get over things faster and let things go and keep working at your goals. If you spend all your time crying on your girlfriend’s shoulders, yeah you are getting a sympathetic ear. You are also taking too long on this event and should have moved on by now. Girls let each other go on and on about things and that makes us hold on to it so much longer. My guy friends help me to see if I keep talking about, whatever, they are not going to keep listening and will go wash the car rather than listen to me whine. It makes me shut up and re-boot and move on to the next thing sooner that I would have on my own.


That’s one of the things I love about men, they keep moving on to the next thing. I see them being successful and then I remember. He didn’t give up and he didn’t wallow in self-pity. As a girl I don’t have to wallow either, I can take my surfboard out and relax and get over myself. I also love to see that determined look in men’s faces when you know they are set and going to go forward with their plans. I hope I can have that kind of confidence someday. Thanks guys for all your help. You have no idea; it’s so much harder for us girls. That’s why we need you, to learn from you and we do love you for it!